Here's a post on Curbed that caught my eyes a few days ago. A reader asked:
I have an apartment in a new, relatively small condo building in lower Manhattan. Although many of the residents are creative, artist types, the atmosphere in the building is one of dullness and boredom. I might as well be living in the suburbs! So the question is: Does wealth and sophistication often breed dullness and distance from other people? Or is this some kind of "neighbor fear" or shyness? All I know is that neighbors hesitate to say hello to one another, and instead scurry quickly into their units. What is your experience?I was recently having a conversation with someone in which the phrase "boring banker type" was used, so the association of money and boringness was kind of intriguing me. How one interacts with neighbors is only one part of the question. There may be certain cultural tendencies that are more common within different income levels, but I don't think having money necessarily makes people boring. One friend of mine, a struggling artist type herself, once told me that she found people more interesting if they had also experienced some kind of struggle to succeed or a sense of living with risk. To her, having money meant that people took safety and comfort for granted, and that they hadn't had interesting experiences.
Of course to others, it's boring to be poor! Money gives people the opportunity to do interesting things that might otherwise not be possible, like traveling, or working in low-paying but rewarding careers, or devoting oneself to philanthropy.
As for the issue of isolation from others, I do think money can cause that. I've written about this before-- the fact that the more money we have, the more we use private cars instead of public transportation, the more we live in private homes instead of apartment buildings, and use technology like iPods and DVD players to experience music and movies that we might otherwise hear or see out loud, in public, among other people.
Comments on the original Curbed posting included these remarks:
As far as rich people being dull, perhaps spending all that time counting your money, excuse me "managing" your money, can make Jack/Jill a dull boy/girl.As you'll see, some of the comments went even further into deliberately provocative, rude, trollish remarks, but it was an interesting dialogue nonetheless! What's your opinion?
Expensive buildings, generally, have better soundprofing. and yes wealthier people do tend to be more boring. More space does means less human interaction. Even the children of the wealthy have less interaction as they don't have to share a room and can do as they please.
I prefer not to talk to poor people because I am rich and they are not. I am better than them, and they are beneath me. I wish genocide was legal. All poor people would be gone under my rules! Smelly, dumb bastards!