Showing posts with label New York Stories Series. Show all posts
Showing posts with label New York Stories Series. Show all posts

Monday, April 07, 2008

New York Stories #16: Mets F-F-Fan

No, I haven't suddenly developed a stutter! Here's a New York Story about a Mets Fan who really has Frugality and the Future on her mind! Even though I am a Yankees fan myself, this is another inspiring story about a young woman who is really no-nonsense when it comes to building her net worth!

I am currently 24 years old, about to hit the quarter-of-a-century mark. I was born and raised in Queens, NY (definitely a Mets fan), and graduated from a private college outside of Philadelphia, which I attended simply because they offered me the most financial aid. Unlike many of my fellow fresh-out-of-college coworkers, I chose to live at home with my parents, which allowed me to save a ton on rent. I will be forever grateful for the past two years when my parents helped me keep afloat. They understood the value of compounded interest and reinvestment. The deal was that they would allow me to live at home rent-free, as long as my salary went towards retirement savings. I am proud to say that I upheld my end of the bargain, socking away 80% of my salary until I reached the maximum yearly contributions for both my 401(k) and my Roth IRA. I have also opened a New York 529 account and a UPromise account, which I plan to use towards either my future kids' college educations, or else towards my own future grad school education. As a paralegal, I worked as much overtime as possible, to the point where I was earning an average of $65,000 a year. Everything was pre-tax: my Metrocard, my gym membership, and my retirement contributions. I only wish I had been aware of the flex-spending option earlier.

In order to save money, I always bring my own breakfast and lunch to work, even buying the extra-large tubs of yogurt which were cheaper than buying the smaller individual yogurt containers (more environmentally friendly, too!). Most of the clothes I own are from Ebay. I love it how some of my friends exclaim with horror at the idea of buying clothes from Ebay, yet those purchases are the ones that I receive the most compliments on. I also try to wait until February or July before I buy anything, when all of the stores have their clearance sales. I budget myself $50 a week in cash, enough for one dinner out with friends on Friday nights, and a maximum limit of $300 per month to charge to my credit card (my downfall is traveling, though. I have to admit that I don't have a budget when it comes to planning a vacation). I never carry a credit card balance in order to avoid paying interest. I always sign up for samples, so I can get free deodorant and toothpaste. I also use Craig's List to get free haircuts at pretty upscale salons in midtown. I can't remember the last time I paid for a haircut. I usually buy movie tickets through my firm for half-price; the certificates only stipulate that they can't be used for the first 10 days after a new film has been released. I even manage to have free facials and other spa treatments, through various company promotions.

The list goes on and on and on, but the point of it is that even though New York can be very expensive, it can also be very cheap. You can only get as much out of something as you put into it. Some people make fun of how I try to save, because I can never bring myself to pay $5 for a Starbucks coffee run or a professional manicure, but I can at least say that my net worth is around $80,000 (it was $102,000 at the highest point, before I started to travel around Europe and the whole Bear Stearns fiasco). I am now living in Germany for a year as part of a government-sponsored exchange program, meaning all of my expenses are paid for, including rent and airfare. That's the best way to travel!


Glad our Mets F-F-Fan is becoming at Mets F-F-F-Fan, by spending some money on Fun! She deserves it. Thanks for submitting your story!

You too can submit a New York Story for this site: just email me!

Don't miss these other posts in the series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem
New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags
New York Stories #12: Starving Artist
New York Stories #13: Cheap Healthy Good
New York Stories #14: The Lonely Lawyer Who Left
New York Stories #15: MFA or Bust

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

New York Stories #15: MFA or Bust

Here's another New York story from a blogger, MFA or Bust. Yet another tale of triumph over debt, on an arts-world salary!

I'm in my early 20s, live in Brooklyn, and work in nonprofit arts administration in Manhattan. I also moonlight as a freelance editor, and my gross income is somewhere between $45,000 - $48,000/year. Honestly, though so many people insist that living on a mid-$40s salary in the city is so difficult, it's enough money for me--though I certainly wouldn't mind more! But I split a nice apartment in a beautiful neighborhood, I can afford to treat myself, my boyfriend, and friends to a nice dinner and drinks once in a while, and I'm even saving a little, to build up my rainy-day fund.

If it weren't for my consumer debt--I made some dubious decisions in college and immediately after--I'd be leading a very, very comfortable life. But alas, I'm in the midst of paying off $10,708 (as of January 2007) of credit-card debt. I actually didn't get serious about taking care of it until this past October, at which point it was still ringing in at $7,292. I've paid off another $4,120 since then, and thanks to my current $1,100/month repayment schedule and an unexpected windfall (I won a writing award, with comes with a nice cash prize), I'll actually be debt-free next month.

I'm contemplating diving back in, though. I was recently accepted into my top-choice school for a two-year MFA program in writing. They have an incredible stellar faculty and reputation... and incredibly poor funding. My aid package is still in flux (they've told me that they may be able to offer me more, so I'm waiting for a definitive final offer before accepting or very sadly declining), and even with some savings, a freelance job to cover living expenses, and family help, I'm looking at taking on just as much debt--if not more--than I just painstakingly dug myself out of.

I'm sure that some (most) people probably think that I'm insane for even considering such an expensive degree, which does nothing to further my career... but the truth is, writing is my intractable passion, and it's one that's been squeezed out by my professional obligations. If I don't make/buy the time now, I'm afraid that I'll have to wait until I retire to get serious about finishing my manuscript. Since I have no other financial liabilities (no student loans from college, no mortgage, etc.), the prospect of maintaining my current quality of my life--which I don't think is shabby at all, just tightly budgeted--for two years after graduation isn't that alarming.

I know a lot of young writers come to New York for school, thinking that they'll write the Great American Novel, but then spend their time barhopping and going to shows and eating out--having the "real New York experience." But I've been in New York for a long time, relative to my age. My father taught in the city for many years, so I shuttled in and out in high school and then came to stay for good for college. I've already made my mistakes--I've drank and shopped and eaten more than my fill and am paying the $10,000+ tab--so I feel like I've already passed through that trial by fire.

Anyway. Regardless of whether or not I go to graduate school, I'm on track to build a $5,000 emergency fund and maybe even fully fund a Roth IRA this year. Considering where I was only two years ago, I feel pretty proud and very hopeful for the future.
MFA or Bust makes a great point regarding the choices people face about following a creative path. Keeping up a "day job" can make it almost impossible to find the time and energy for creative work. And immersing yourself in a community of other young creative types in New York can mean you end up spending a lot of money and time on "experience," also known as fun! But it sounds like our MFA seeker has her eyes wide open, and since she's young and already familiar with what it takes to pay off debt in a relatively short period of time, I hope she goes for it and gets her degree, no matter how the chips may fall afterwards. Thanks for the story, and be sure to visit her blog.

You too can submit a New York Story for this site: just email me!

Don't miss these other posts in the series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem
New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags
New York Stories #12: Starving Artist
New York Stories #13: Cheap Healthy Good
New York Stories #14: The Lonely Lawyer Who Left

Friday, March 07, 2008

New York Stories #14: The Lonely Lawyer Who Left

Here's another New York Story: the person who submitted it described it as a sad tale and when I read it, I had to kind of agree. New York, and any city really, can be such a lonely place, and when you feel depressed about that, money worries just make it that much worse. This is also one of the few stories I've received where 9/11 became a factor in someone's financial life:

I had no idea what I was in for -- none -- but I'd always wanted to live in New York. I thought then that it was something about the excitement of the city; I know now that it was probably more about the anonymity it affords. I moved to the city in early 1997 at the age of 26, right after finishing law school. I was an ambivalent lawyer, though, and had lined up a non-paying television internship. I had no money other than what my parents gave me. Lucky for me, they kept me afloat for about six months in those early days -- even though they were going through a nasty divorce at the time and were not there for me in other, more meaningful ways.

I was totally alone. I had one friend in the city, but he was a total asshole. He was making nearly six figures at the outset -- something that he was all-too-eager to rub in. Asshole. I did, however, have some things going for me: There was that law degree (though I had not passed the bar at that time), and my father, through a professional connection, secured a really nice apartment for me (with a roommate I didn't know) on the Upper East Side for $1000/month. I took the bar, left the unpaid internship abruptly and, after a few 2-3 day temp jobs, landed a long-term assignment at a big law firm in midtown. I think I was clearing about $1,800 per month, enough to cover rent but not much else after paying my student loans. I had to be quite careful with my money. I was never one to make budgets, but I had a good sense of what I could or couldn't afford. There were a few times when I overspent and my bank account was in the negative. I remember my first trip to a supermarket on the UES and being shocked at the high cost of food. I bought one of those small jars of peanut butter because I didn't feel I could afford more than that.

Around April, I learned that I passed the bar (phew!) and promptly started looking for a full-time job. It was not easy; it took months. I finally landed a job with a shady solo securities lawyer. I was paid $40,000/year, with no benefits at all, no 401(k), no health insurance, none of that. I finally managed to get the cheap bastard to pay for my health insurance about six months later but I felt like I was getting screwed by this guy. I've felt that I've been screwed by most, maybe all, of my employers: a chronic condition. Just over a year after I started that job, I got an offer with a much better, small law firm, at $80,000 per year. I had nearly doubled my salary -- woohoo -- but it was still quite a bit less than what other firms were paying, something I was very conscious and resentful of. After a year there, I got a $10,000 bonus, and a salary increase to $95,000. I remember that when they told me I'd get a $10,000 bonus, I determined right then and there that I would leave that firm. I may seem like an ingrate for saying that, but I worked really hard and that was not a lot of money in those days for what I was doing. There were some good times, to be sure, but I was a nervous wreck most of the time. I had the weight of the world on my shoulders. I was depressed, I gained weight. It was no fun. These were anxious, scary times, for me: my parents were splitting up, my whole world was coming undone and I didn't have anyone (other than a therapist) to talk to.

About two years later, in 2000, with the economy booming, I jumped ship again for a job that paid $135,000/year. I was living in another apartment by that time, but still paying about $1,000/month for rent and utilities. It was a sweet deal and, even though I desperately wanted to live alone, I couldn't bring myself to pay the going rate of twice or three times that per month. Plus, I was able to save a lot of money -- several thousand dollars a month. Before long, I had enough for a down payment for a one-bedroom in the Village. It was a great place (East 11th between University and Broadway), and I felt like finally I was living the life I wanted to live.

But: Right after I signed the contract and made the 10% deposit for the down payment... 9/11 came, and I lost my job. I still closed on the apartment but spent an anxious six months out of work -- with no income to pay my $250K mortgage. I don't know how I did it exactly, but I still had about $30,000 in the bank -- I wasn't close to being broke. I guess I led a rather frugal lifestyle, although I always went out to eat with friends, etc.. I did the things I wanted to do. I didn't feel deprived. I finally got another job at a much reduced salary of $100,000. I stayed at that job for about four years, before leaving the city for Washington, D.C. This was two years ago. I had a serious girlfriend. She was pregnant; my life was about to change.

I'm really grateful in some ways to NYC for helping me to launch my career, and I love NYC so much (I still own that apartment; I rent it out now but hope to hold onto it as a second home). But it's a really hard place to get started in life. The pressures are enormous, the loneliness sometimes crushing: there are some ups and downs to be had. Know that. Of course, it doesn't have to be that way -- I know that -- but that's the way it was for me.
The interesting thing about this story is that although our Lawyer made a pretty good income during his years in New York, his frugality was just as important-- he saved money for an apartment, and weathered 6 months of unemployment without going into debt. It sounds like everything worked out for him in the end, but I'd love to know more about what his life is like now! Unfortunately, I seem to have lost his original email so I haven't been able to ask any follow-up questions-- Lawyer, if you're still reading, I'm sure everyone would love to know how you're doing!

Other posts in this series:

New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem
New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags
New York Stories #12: Starving Artist
New York Stories #13: Cheap Healthy Good

This is an ongoing feature at My Open Wallet, so if you'd like you submit your own New York Story, please email me at openwallet1 [at] yahoo [dot] com. Or, if you have a relatively brief story, you can call 718-473-9915 and record it as a voicemail which I'll post here so everyone can listen!

Monday, February 25, 2008

New York Stories #13: Cheap Healthy Good

Here's another blogger contributing a New York Story: Cheap Healthy Good blogs mostly about food, but she's also very aware of finance:

The Basics
I'm a freelance writer living in Brooklyn with my boyfriend, two roommates, and the biggest backyard squirrel you've ever seen. His name is Samson. He likes walnuts.

The Background
After graduating in 1999 from a SUNY, I lived at my parents' home on Long Island and commuted two hours each way to my media job in Midtown. The commute was ... not fun. A year later, bolstered by a raise (to a staggering $28,000/year) I headed for Brooklyn to shack up with three good friends. Added together, I think we just broke the $100,000 salary barrier, but funds didn't seem to didn't matter. New York offers so much, and we had each other. (Also, our beer tastes were way less extravagant at 22.)

One breakup, three boroughs, six apartments, and eight years later, I'm freelancing (mostly) at the same place, making in the mid-to-high five figures, and living comfortably with my current S.O. When I have work, that is. Media jobs are mercurial beasts, and the recent economic shifts (particularly in pay and hiring structures) mean I'm without steady work for the first time since I was 17. Good times.

The Brand New
To combat bouts of unemployment, I go on austerity, kind of like a human school district. Since I share an apartment with a trio, my rent is a highly reasonable $575 (though I've coughed up $1150 for other places). That's not a huge problem. Everything else ... I'm working on it. I rarely shop for clothes anyway, but I'm cutting back on retirement savings, entertainment, food, etc. My old job still covers my health insurance, though I'm not sure for how much longer. That's an issue, and it will become a much bigger one as my personal life settles down.

Speaking of (and I wouldn't mention it if it wasn't significant to my economic standing), I turned 30 last year. While I don't necessarily feel the pressure to get hitched and spawn (yet), I'm surrounded by people who have done both. Since graduation day, I've been to over 25 weddings and 32 showers (baby and bridal). Last August alone, I had 11 pregnant friends or family members. ELEVEN. If I did the math (which I won't, because it would be scarring), I'm fairly certain I'd find these travel/dress/gift expenditures are behind only rent and food. I don't regret it. I love my circle. But, man ... that's a lot of onesies.

Fortunately, I keep a strict budget and am debt-free. After that first year at home, I haven't relied on financial assistance from my parents, either. I don't own a car, rarely carry a credit card balance, and in September of last year, paid off my undergrad and grad school debt to Sallie Mae ten years ahead of schedule. In fact, I accidentally overpaid by $4, and for a few brief and shining weeks, THEY owed ME money. It was heavenly.

I've always been fairly frugal, but do have to restrain myself on occasion. Travel, good food, ballgames, and nights on the town are super-tempting. Yet, as I grow more aware of discounts and my finances, these don't cost nearly as much as they used to. Food, in particular, has become an economic strong point since I started cooking, blogging, and paying attention to how I shop.

If I could give a new New Yorker (or an old one), one piece of advice, I'd caution him/her to beware of lifestyle inflation. (It's when your social and material expectations inflate along with your salary.) When you're 23 and pulling in $30,000 for the first time in your life, it's like a goldmine. Five or six years later, when you're making twice that, it may not seem like enough, since your tastes have matured. If you can keep lifestyle inflation at a reasonable level, New York is a wonderful place with tons of opportunity. If you can't, it's just the opposite.

The Beyond
Honestly, I don't know what's next. Though I crave job stability and want to save more, I expect to keep freelancing for the next few years. I'm done with school, though. If I never write another paper, it will be too soon.

I guess I'll be done with New York someday, too. I love it, but would like trees and a backyard for my kids. Until then, I'm pretty happy with things the way they are.


Ah, the New York life: 6 apartments in 8 years! And she's another freelancer who has to worry about fluctuating income, though living with a significant other can help ease that worry sometimes. Cheap Healthy Good also makes a great point about lifestyle inflation being one of the greatest dangers in this city, where there is always such temptation to have a slightly bigger apartment, or to eat out for one more meal a week! Thank you to Cheap Healthy Good for submitting this story, and good luck finding your next gig!

Other posts in this series:

New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem
New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags
New York Stories #12: Starving Artist

This is an ongoing feature at My Open Wallet, so if you'd like you submit your own New York Story, please email me at openwallet1 [at] yahoo [dot] com.

Friday, February 15, 2008

New York Stories #12: Starving Artist

Here's a New York story that will definitely make you believe it's possible to get by on a low income in NYC. Meet "Starving Artist":

i am young- 24, female, and i freelance in the film industry. my income hovers somewhere around the poverty line ($10,000 or less per year), but i live extremely cheaply in a great 3-br apartment in an ungentrified brooklyn neighborhood. i attended an expensive private college with nearly no financial help from my parents and have lots of student loan debt, but very little credit card debt.

as a freelancer, my income varies wildly. i can expect to make anything from $500 to $2000 a month, depending on the time of the year and the jobs i get. during a good month, i save anything above my immediate expenses so that i'll be able to make rent and pay my bills in the leaner winter months. i also have a fallback job (substitute teaching) a few months out of the year, which i don't enjoy very much but it allows me to keep my schedule flexible. my monthly spending breaks roughly down as follows:

rent $330 (split with two roommates)
student loans $170
groceries $80
metrocard $76
cell phone/internet/netflix $75
entertainment (drinks, dinner, yoga) $60
clothes and books (thrift stores) $40
utilities $30

...but in the truly lean months i cut out the entertainment costs, clothes, and books.

my parents, who've both worked blue-collar jobs all their lives and struggle to make ends meet but are proud to own their home, taught me to be careful with money from a very early age. i was raised to be afraid of debt and to never pay retail!

it takes alot of work and some creativity to live cheaply in a city like new york, but i value my quality of life much more when i keep my expenses down so i'm not obligated to sell my every waking second. it's not that i'm lazy- film is hard, physically grueling work, and the hours START at 72 a week, with one day off. it's that i value my freedom to pursue creative projects and my ability to set my own schedule much more than new clothes, an apartment in a trendy neighborhood, or dinners out. every dollar that i don't spend on something unnecessary is a dollar i don't have to make at a day job i hate. (and believe me, i've had some jobs i really hated.) i'm committed to making most of what i need myself, whether it's clothing or lunch. i love to sew and cook, and i save money on groceries by foregoing processed foods and making my meals from scratch. my apartment is furnished with fantastic furniture, all from thrift stores or pulled from the trash. my biggest luxury is travel, which i've resolved to do more of in the coming year. travel for me means staying in hostels or crashing on the couches of friends who live in some of the world's exciting cities. i've been saving up for a plane ticket to visit my best friend in berlin in honor of our 25th birthdays.

my goals for the next 10 years include an apartment with a garden and extra space for a workshop (in a city, not necessarily new york), a dog (huge expense!), and the ability to do what i love year-round without worrying about where the rent's coming from. i would also like to have health insurance, but barring a huge change in national policy or admission to a trade guild i don't know how i'd do that.

I asked Starving Artist to talk a bit more about how her blue-collar parents felt about her choices, and how that might compare to the attitudes of her friends' parents:
my parents were very uncomfortable with the idea of me pursuing a career in the arts when i was in high school and college. they refused to let me apply to both the arts magnet high school in our town and the private college that i eventually secretly applied to anyway. the first month of my sophomore year of college, it became such an issue that my parents decreased their financial support of me by 90%, to the same amount they spent on my sister who lived at home and attended community college. i believe their thinking that it was tough love, that i would be forced to move home and learn to do something "realistic", and that i'd thank them later. i nearly had to drop out of school, but thanks to some friends with a cheap place in brooklyn i moved out of my dorm, got a 30-hr-a-week job on top of classes, and was able to take out enough loans to just barely cover my tuition.

i've been extremely jealous over the years of friends and significant others with parents who supported their artistic ambitions from an early age. most of these friends had parents who are photographers or opera singers or college professors, parents who would send their children to film camp or pay their children's rent so that they could do career-making unpaid internships. my parents, even though they wanted me to succeed, would never have been able to afford these things. i've often wondered where i'd be right now if i'd had some of these advantages, or even more of a financial safety net.

recently though, my mother has seen that i've made somewhat of a name and a living for myself, that i love what i do and have alot of personal freedom, and she's come around. she's said more than once that she wishes she had a job she actually liked doing, and i've even heard her bragging about me to relatives.


It all comes down to what you value, and the ability to recognize what makes you happy. I loved this line: "I value my quality of life much more when I keep my expenses down." I am sure all of us have had moments, as we make more money and allow ourselves more comforts, when we see our rising standards as a burden rather than a pleasure.
Starving Artist joked that the name she'd chosen for herself might be a bit of a cliché, but actually, I think she sounds rather satisfied and fulfilled, not starving! But boy is that a tight budget.
Thank you for submitting this great story, and I wish you the best in reaching your goals.


Other posts in this series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem
New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags

Thursday, February 07, 2008

New York Stories #11: Little Miss Moneybags.

Here's a New York Story from another blogger, Little Miss Moneybags. She struggled to make ends meet after coming here for an exciting but low-paying job, yet she's made great progress:

I moved to New York City from Tennessee on New Year's Day, 2004. I had graduated from college two weeks before, and had a stipend-only internship (which covered my rent) lined up for six months. I always wanted to live here, and thought this was the perfect opportunity. I never thought I'd stay longer than that, but it wasn't long before I realized I'd have a very hard time leaving.

I managed to extend the internship by a few months for half the stipend I'd been getting, and worked at Starbucks to pay the rest of my rent and other expenses. Financially, I was really poor—I scrounged change for bus fare and when I didn't have enough, I walked—even in the winter, even when it was four miles to work. My $860/month rent included one bedroom in a four-bedroom apartment plus utilities, and the apartment was shabby and the neighborhood questionable. For at least once meal a day, I ate leftover sandwiches from Starbucks that would have otherwise been thrown away. I didn't buy new clothes, or go to the movies, or spend money on anything other than food and shelter. I think my taxable income that year was about $16,000.

Oh, but I felt rich. I was interning at the United Nations and got to hear officials from all over the world speak. I made abiding friendships with the people I lived with and met working at Starbucks. I went to all sorts of free events in the city, from concerts and plays in the park to fireworks displays and open gallery days to just wandering around exploring the city. I read a lot of library books. My entire worldview was being challenged and I loved it.

At the end of 2004, about two weeks before I completely ran out of money and had to call my parents for plane fare home, I landed my first "real" job at a salary of $27,500. I thought I was RICH! I began putting money into a 401k and also started taking weekly belly dance lessons, something I'd always wanted to do. My salary has risen steadily since then as I've been promoted and switched careers (from radio to publishing) and I'm now making more than twice what I made that first year. I've moved up in apartments twice. Those dance classes turned into an invitation to perform professionally with a company, so it's an entirely self-sustaining hobby. And aside from a strictly money standpoint, I still feel rich. I still feel amazed at the variety of culture and possibilities in New York. I have made great friends and fantastic relationship. I've been able to do some travelling, and experience some of the finer things in life. While my salary isn't high by New York standards, it certainly allows me to have a full life. I still use the lessons I learned that first year about prioritizing expenses and finding cheap or free sources of entertainment.

Some specific things that got me where I am:

Debt: I don't have any. I was very lucky not to have any student loans when I graduated—this alone could have derailed everything that first year. But since then, even when I was eating yet another stale egg salad sandwich from Starbucks, I was careful not to acquire any debt. I didn't get a credit card until I was 24 and ever since have used it carefully for planned purchases. I pay it off in full every month. I will be taking out a loan for grad school in 2008, after much deliberation, and paying the entire balance off within one year of graduation using tuition reimbursement money from my job. Other than that, I absolutely under no circumstances will make payments on anything. If I can't afford it, I don't need it.

A budget: I'm one of those nerdy budget people. I have a written budget and I live by it. I'm not so strict as to be a stick in the mud when my friends want to go out to eat, but I do tell my money what to do before it comes in. I determine ahead of time what to do with a raise or a bonus, as well as my regular paycheck. Rather than being constricting, I find this very freeing—if I have $20 in the misc. category, I don't have to feel guilty at all for getting myself a manicure or (yet another) pashmina. I don't have to worry about whether I'll be able to cover my cell phone bill or electricity payment, because that $20 was earmarked for me to blow!

Savings: As soon as I was making enough money to do so, I began saving along two philosophies. One is a rainy day or emergency fund which took me about two years to build—six months of expenses tucked away, just in case. In case I lose my job, or get sick or hurt and can't work, or my apartment burns down, or whatever. It is such a relief to have that money there, just waiting. When I had a recent health scare and was told insurance might not cover the $300 test, I could say "That's fine. I can pay for it. I need to know the results, and I have the money." The other philosophy is what I call Sinking Funds—saving for those things that come up reliably but not regularly. Travel, renter's insurance, gifts, prescriptions—all these things and more can derail a budget if they're not accounted for. By putting just a little away each pay period, I'm able to visit family about four times a year and the only stress I experienced at Christmas was what to get for people—not how to pay for it.

It's true that my interest in personal finance and my nerdy approach to budgeting and saving won't work for everyone. Many people aren't lucky enough to find a hobby that pays for itself. But money should not be a hindrance to going after your dreams. Life is short, and you can't take your toys with you—better to scrape by and know that your life is what you make it than to insist on always being comfortable.


What I love about some of these stories, including this one, is the sense that people are really sinking their teeth into New York-- enjoying it with gusto the way you might savor a tasting menu of wonderfully delicious foods. That sense of truly experiencing and loving the city makes up for the sacrifices it can take to survive here, and as some of our story-tellers have proven, it doesn't have to cost a cent. Miss Moneybags has some serious discipline and ambition as well as an appreciation of fun. I'll be watching her blog to see what's next for her!

Other posts in this series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider
New York Stories #10: Debt-Free in Harlem

Share your own New York Story by emailing it to me at openwallet1 -- at -- yahoo -- dot-- com.

Friday, February 01, 2008

New York Stories #10 : Debt-Free in Harlem

We're up to our 10th New York Story! Here's someone who came to the city and succumbed to the usual temptations that make us overspend, but then she got it together and got out of debt!

I am a 28 y/o. originally from VA, moved to NY after graduating college in 2001 to work in fashion industry.
Career began making 37K a year. By the grace of God and hard work, now make 90K.

I graduated college with no student loan debt (on a full merit based scholarship, saving me 120k), but accrued credit card debt my first year in the city) by…shopping, eating out. Basically living beyond my means.
After a year of fearing my credit card bill every month, I realized the answer to my dilemma was not making more money, but being a good steward of the money that I already made. I cut out all ‘extras’ (cable, magazine subscriptions, hair appt, mani/pedicure, eating out) and put myself on a strict budget of living on $60 a week (for $21 weekly MetroCard, all food, laundry). I was able to pay off $6,249.41 in 14 months and became debt free in 2003!

Motivated to save aggressively, I moved out of the UES, got a roommate and now share a rent-stabilized apt in Harlem (only pay $550/ month) in order to save to purchase my own apt.

Breakdown of my current budget:
10% of gross income = tithe
2% of gross income = offering
10% of gross income = 401K contribution
30% of gross income = living expenses (rent, ConEd, basic cable, renter’s insurance, NYSC membership, food, allowance)
15% of gross income = esavings acct
Balance…taxes J.
Well done! I am impressed by several things here: first of all, she has obviously done well in her career and increased her income very quickly. But she didn't let her lifestyle expand too much as she did it-- instead she moved to lower her rent, and prioritized paying off debt. Over $6,000 paid off in 14 months, and this was back when she was only 2 years out of college! That is amazing. And now she is putting 12% of her income toward tithes and offerings, and still manages to save money! That nice low rent must really help! Congratulations to this debt-free New Yorker and best of luck in saving to buy your own home-- given your saving discipline, I'm sure you will manage it quite soon!

Other posts in this series:

New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple
New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider

And I'm still accepting submissions, so feel free to email me your very own New York Story!

Thursday, January 24, 2008

New York Stories #9: Upper West Sider

It's New York Story time again! This time we hear from a denizen of the Upper West Side:

I live in Manhattan's awesome Upper West Side. I make $130,000 per year as a project manager, which is enough for a pretty comfortable standard of living as long as your standards aren't too high. I started out making jack diddly squat since I came here as a graduate student. I did two Master's degrees in three years, working three jobs at a time: one on campus, plus two teaching assistantships and two or three different internships. My first salary in the working world was $62,000 back in 1996, so it's grown about 6 to 7% annually on average.

I became a homeowner in 2001 by grabbing up an apartment right after 9/11. The purchaser bolted and it went back on the market, so I had to decide then and there whether I was willing to make a commitment to New York. I would have done it earlier if I could have, but I went through a very nasty divorce starting early in 2001 and dragging on for eighteen months, so it was just as well that my ex and I didn't buy property together.

At the moment, 15.5% of my salary goes to retirement savings, supplemented by another 3% kicked in by my employer. Most of my personal expenditure goes to travel, with eating out as a distant second. I also have a thang about good coffee, good chocolate, and good things in general. I don't have a lot of stuff, but what I have is satisfying because it's pretty high quality.

I wouldn't say my financial habits changed enormously after I moved to New York. I learned my frugal habits from a couple of very good role models while growing up, so there wasn't much of a learning curve. Seeing the income vs. tuition delta was great motivation to ramp up my already fairly frugal habits to a much higher spot on the frugality continuum.

Living in New York has made me a saver. It's so easy to blow your entire salary and then look back and wonder where it all went. Even earning six figures, the only way to be a homeowner and plan for retirement is to consciously choose a lifestyle that will support those objectives.


I think my favorite line here is "Living in New York has made me a saver." So many New Yorkers would say just the opposite: "Living in New York has made me overspend." Perhaps it is true that the environment of this city can inspire frugality in ways that the suburbs wouldn't. When you are so surrounded by conspicuous consumption and expensive real estate, you realize that if your income is moderate, you'll have to be really disciplined to get a piece of it for yourself, so you're less likely to want to waste money on the little things... unfortunately it doesn't work that way for everyone! Many thanks to this Upper West Sider for contributing a story!

Other posts in this series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn
New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

New York Stories #8: Comfortable Couple

Here's a nice New York Story from a young couple, who, like Escape Brooklyn, are helping to buck the trend of what seemed to be all single female submissions to this series so far!

We are a happy couple in our mid-20's who live a comfortable life in NYC. I graduated from an extremely prestigious college and am now pursuing a PhD in the sciences. My stipend is $29K and my hours fluctuate anywhere from 30 to 100 hrs/ wk. My spouse works in the finance sector and averages 45 hrs/ wk. Together, our household income is about $200K.

Despite our relatively young age, we entered our marriage with decent savings. Neither of us had any debt from college, thanks to a combination of parental help, scholarships, and part-time jobs. We have always paid off our credit card balance in full, maxed out our IRA's and 401k's, and lived below our means, even when our combined income was not nearly as high as it is now. After footing the bill for much of our wedding and all of our honeymoon, we still have a net worth in the low six figures.

As a couple, we are extraordinarily "fiscally compatible." Our foundation for communication (including honesty and openness) is rock solid. We share very similar financial goals and spending/saving habits. At times, I am uncomfortable with how disproportionate my current contribution is. My spouse is completely supportive of whatever career path I choose, but I hope to earn a six-figure salary once I finish my PhD. Obviously, I do not plan on staying in academic research. It's just not for me. I plan on working in the corporate world and hope to find a job that is more rewarding both personally and financially.

We currently rent because my department subsidizes our housing. We pay $1400/month for a 750 sq ft one bedroom in a doorman building with a large garden/ courtyard in the heart of Manhattan. Another major expense is food/ restaurants since we rarely cook. However, we offset the splurges by often enjoying cheap eats in Chinatown, Curry Hill, St. Mark's, Spanish Harlem, etc. This is a common motif in our spending pattern. We take multiple international & domestic trips per year, but we minimize costs by staying with friends/ family, finding great deals, or traveling to affordable places (great exchange rate or off-season). We see lots of shows, but also take advantage of any available discounts and student rush tixx.

I would describe our lifestyle as "comfortable," but not luxurious or overly wasteful. Neither of us subscribe to the values of conspicuous consumption. Some expenses that we do not have include: a car, pets, cigarettes, coffee, luxury goods, high-end designer items, or the latest tech accessory (e.g. iphones or ipods). We believe that there's a big difference between spending within our means and spending within our budget. We definitely do not feel "rich".. at least not by NYC standards. We realize that we still have a long way to go, especially if we want to settle down here. We've fallen in love with Manhattan, but it's so expensive. An 800 sq ft condo in a decent neighborhood would easily cost $1 million!

The amount of money that flows through this city is just mind-boggling. Most of our employed friends make six-figures and a few (traders) make seven-figures a year. So far, peer pressure to spend big has been minimal. I suspect that this has much to do with the fact that we also have many unemployed friends who are still in law school, medical school, or grad school. Since there are several students in our circle of friends (including myself), we often accommodate the lowest budget. When we go out together, we choose places with no cover and drink specials. When we travel, we're okay with staying together at hostels. I wonder how this dynamic is going to change after our friends finish their degrees and more of us start making high salaries.

To keep us grounded (among other reasons), my spouse and I devote several hours a month to volunteering. Through volunteering, we've met New Yorkers from many different walks of life. We realize how incredibly fortunate we are to have such great educations, career prospects, and generally worry-free lives. We also understand how important it is to help those who are less fortunate. In the future, we hope to give back even more.

The diversity of people, cultures, and ideas is what makes NYC so profoundly great. We try to take advantage of everything the city has to offer. Between the two of us, we enjoy activities that range from live reggae to chamber music ensembles, from Broadway musicals to improv comedy, from street cart gyros to Jean Georges, from ice- skating outdoors to African dance classes, from burger joints to Japanese izakayas, from the MoMA to the Gallery Bar... To say that we would be very unhappy if we had to live somewhere with a homogenous population and limited choices would be an understatement. We also love the minimal commute and convenience of public transportation from living in Manhattan.

In summary: We currently live a comfortable, but not luxurious, life in NYC. We are completely in love with the city and want to settle down here. It's terribly expensive, but we are fortunate enough to have the means to stay. We hope to close on a condo in Manhattan by the time we turn 30. We want to continue maximizing happiness and rewarding life experiences (e.g. traveling and volunteering) while minimizing wasteful consumption.

Wow. I wish I had had such a clear-headed sense of my goals and values when I was in my mid-20s! Kudos to this couple for taking advantage of what the city has to offer, and staying true to themselves amidst the influences of friends who are on different paths. And, damn, a $1,400 doorman 1-BR in the heart of Manhattan! Enjoy that while it lasts! Many thanks to Comfortable Couple for sharing their story.

Would you like to share your own New York Story? Email me at openwallet1 ---- at----- yahoo --- dot--- com.

Other posts in this series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice
New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn

Monday, January 14, 2008

New York Stories #7: Escape Brooklyn

Another New York Story for ya... this time it's from another blogger whose posts and comments I always enjoy, Escape Brooklyn. And here's something that is a bit different from most of the New York Stories I've posted so far: as you might guess from the title of her blog, E.B. isn't feeling all that positive about NYC any more. She's kind of over it! She's thinking about leaving the city and heading for someplace where life might be cheaper and less complicated. Here's her story:

A huge thanks to Madame X for inviting me to participate in her New York Stories series, which I’ve loved reading so far. Since I already share so many financial details on my blog, Escape Brooklyn, I thought I’d highlight four PF watershed moments that I’ve had since moving to New York in 2002.

First, I moved here from Chicago after finishing my MFA (Master of Fine Arts degree; I focused on film/video/new media). Although it was always one of my goals to get an advanced degree, I had no idea what I was really getting into and ended up with $49k in student loans. Now, I wasn’t totally naïve going in; based on the financial aid package the school sent me before I enrolled, I expected to take out $24k in loans. However, tuition increased $5k in my second year, the T.A. jobs weren’t as readily available as the school implied, and in my department T.A.’s earned a paltry $8/hour instead of the $13-$21 hourly wage advertised in the school’s literature. So what I learned is that schools are corporations that need to make money, and that they make it incredibly easy for students to just keep adding on the debt.

And while I don’t necessarily “regret” getting a Masters, I do wish I had done a more accurate cost/benefit analysis before committing to a three-year terminal degree (and moving back across the country from the Bay Area, where I was living at the time, for it). Now instead of having the artistic freedom to pursue film work, I work a day job in a non-related field and pay $400/month towards my loans. The minimum payment is $290, but I’d like to have them paid off before I’m 40 so I make extra payments. Altogether, it will have taken me about 13 years to pay off my advanced degree. Fortunately I consolidated at the record low interest rate of 3.5%.

On the positive side, having the student loan debt forced me to get really serious and organized about managing my money. Which brings me to my second significant moment. A few months after moving to NYC, I had found my first job with a nonprofit. It was a one-year “fellowship” position where I earned a base salary of $20k/year, plus they paid $290/month towards my student loan and there was a potential performance-based bonus of $5k upon completion of the fellowship. During that year, I happened to hear about a financial planning workshop for women, and even though I was struggling, I spent the fifteen bucks to attend.

Funnily enough, the workshop was billed as a “Beauty and Money Make-over” event that took place at a high-end spa. As participants, we received a goody bag with a bunch of fancy face creams, and also a one-time 10% discount on the seriously expensive products. Maybe it’s just me, but looking back I really enjoy the irony of an event that was ostensibly about helping women with money management, yet still felt required to tempt us with severely overpriced anti-aging products to get us in the door!

The workshop, however, was fantastic. A representative from one of the big investment firms gave a PowerPoint presentation based on David Bach’s “Smart Women Finish Rich” book, and at the time it was as if a light bulb went on over my head. Finally, I was getting some direction about this money stuff!

As an added bonus, the workshop presenter offered all of the participants a free, one-hour “financial advising” session. She was obviously trying to drum up her clientele, but I was thrilled to have the opportunity to talk with an expert. (For free!) I remember bringing her my monthly budget (by this point I was an expert at maximizing my limited income) and also a copy of my investments to date. I was 27 years old and pretty proud that I had accumulated about $8k or so in retirement savings despite taking three years off to get my MFA. Considering my only direction so far had been an article from the Chicago Tribune for new college grads that my mom gave me in ‘97 – it promised that college grads could accumulate $1 million dollars for retirement if they just saved $100/month – I felt I was doing okay.

Well, the financial consultant told me in no uncertain terms that I was NOT doing okay. But I’m pretty responsive to tough love, so ultimately her advice was a tremendous boon. She told me I was way underpaid and that considering I had a Masters, I should be earning at least $60k/year. (Which sounded like a fortune at the time!) Although I was doing okay with budgeting the money I had, she said I simply needed to earn more if I was ever going to get ahead. She suggested I focus on buying a starter co-op instead of a multi-family property, and she told me that I was “way behind” on my retirement savings. She said she advises clients to save $30k by age 30. Her feedback was a huge wake-up call.

I immediately focused on climbing the career ladder and now, nearly five years and four jobs later, I earn in the low sixties. I also started putting as much as I could towards retirement, and ended up exceeding her advice; I had $35k saved when I turned 30, including my entire $5k bonus from that initial fellowship. As my income increased (I went from earning $20k to $35k to $55k to my current salary), I simply continued to live as if I was still earning $20k/year so I could save my salary increases. For the past three years, I’ve saved the maximum in my Roth IRA and 403(b) investments, and it’s exciting to see the money accumulate.

The third important moment for me in NYC was when my husband – then boyfriend – and I bought our apartment. Although neither of us was making a lot of money at the time, we saved as much as we could in a separate account and in 2004 were able to buy a one-bedroom co-op. We paid $125k for the apartment in an “up and coming” area of Brooklyn, and with the ever-increasing maintenance cost, our monthly housing costs are currently just under $1,200. We were determined to keep our overhead low, and in hindsight it’s good that we weren’t making more money when we bought our place because our mortgage broker wouldn’t allow us to mortgage more than about $180k, tops (my husband and I were making about $60k/year combined at the time). So we were forced to find a great deal.

Now, the process of buying an apartment in NYC was extremely difficult and frustrating, and if we were trying to buy now we wouldn't be able to afford anything because prices have gotten so insane. And although our apartment has increased in value significantly, ultimately we can’t afford to upgrade. What was supposed to be a stepping-stone to a larger apartment (like a two-bedroom, or something with a balcony) or a multi-family home (where we would live in one unit and rent out the others), has instead become the only thing we can comfortably afford in New York City. So instead we bought an investment house in Philadelphia in 2006, but that’s another story…

We continue to be stubborn about keeping our expenses to one income, since my husband has been laid off from nonprofit jobs a couple of times and I’ve seen budgets slashed and nonprofit colleagues let go, too. The idea is that all of our fixed costs can be paid by one of us, so if anything happens to the other person we won’t be totally screwed. This strategy saved us last January when my husband was unexpectedly laid off, and in fact we used the opportunity for him to focus on his Masters degree full-time (he’ll be done with an Urban Planning degree in May). Our low overhead and my higher salary gave us flexibility and prevented us from having to leave NYC altogether.

My fourth and final watershed moment has to be discovering the PF blogosphere. I’ve been so inspired by bloggers like Madame X and Boston Gal because (finally!) there is helpful information out there about how to manage money. It’s been fantastic to be part of the PF community and read so many different perspectives, and I especially love being able to see what other people’s salaries and savings look like since money continues to be a taboo topic with friends and family. With the help of blogs, I’ve taken control of my finances and developed a concrete strategy that will enable me to achieve my goals (namely, early retirement and self-employment).

As for what’s next for me, I’m currently struggling with the decision to leave New York, a city that I’ve come to love and hate. I don’t want to die in my apartment, yet I also haven’t been able to find anything better that wouldn’t double (or even triple) my monthly payment. I think a major trend will be people moving to smaller cities because the large ones have gotten so expensive. Most of us urban folks wouldn’t want to live in the suburbs, especially folks like me who don’t plan on having kids, so the smaller cities seem to be a good alternative.

My husband and I are currently weighing relocation options and hope to make the move in early 2009. I’m 32 years old now and feel like I should probably move before I get into the next age demographic. Secretly I’m dreading this move because it will mean starting over somewhere completely new again (and I actually really like my day job), but I suspect in the long run moving someplace with a lower cost of living and affordable real estate (so we can buy investment properties) will drastically improve our quality of life. In fact, the majority of our friends have already left New York for smaller, more affordable pastures.

But I’ll continue to keep everyone updated via my blog!


A great lesson here is that in NYC, if you can possibly buy an apartment whose monthly costs you can afford, do it as soon as possible. New York may not be immune to price declines, especially in the outer boroughs, but if you are going to stick around for any length of time, or at least be able to rent your place out if you leave, it's almost always a good investment in the long run. If E.B. hadn't bought her place, she'd probably be renting for twice as much, but instead she has equity that will serve her well if she moves to another city, even if she can't afford to upgrade to a bigger home here.
I was also struck by E.B.'s story about her education, and the trap many people can fall into when they want to pursue an artistic career but then find themselves so saddled with debt that they don't have time to do anything beyond the "day job" that was supposed to support the creative stuff. It's tough to choose.
And finally, good for her that she actually went to that finance workshop! I think many of us often turn our noses up at self-helpy things that might sound a little corny, or we think we already know everything they might cover, but the truth is that it can often be very helpful to get a reminder of good basic info, and a chance to give yourself a reality check!
Many thanks to Escape Brooklyn, and best of luck in figuring out your next move, though we'd hate to lose another NYC money blogger!

Other posts in this series:
New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female
New York Stories #6: SandyVoice

Friday, January 11, 2008

New York Stories #6: SandyVoice

Time for another New York Story! SandyVoice is a frequent commenter on this site, and I'm pleased that she answered the call to contribute a story. She is a musician, and as such, she probably represents a great many New Yorkers who come to this city to pursue careers in the performing arts:

I've had a financial career rather like a trip on the Cyclone at Coney Island, but three and a half years ago, I took a full time job, and now I'm making about $50,000 a year, with another $300 or so a month from extra gigs. The health insurance I get through my job pays for most of my prescriptions, saving me about $600 a month that used to come out of my pocket. After thirty years of unsuccessful self-employment, it took me a while to get used to knowing exactly how much money I was going to have each month. About a year ago I started to keep track of how much I was spending, and on what. In February I started to formulate a budget, which I'm trying to make more realistic each month.

Aside from the Monthly Guaranteed Expenses, the amounts I originally put in the budget were estimates of how much I thought I had spent in the previous year. I left those estimates in place for six months, until I had a better idea of whether I could stick to a budget; then I adjusted them to get closer to reality, and I'll adjust them again after I do my taxes. You'll see, below, that the current estimated monthly expenses are about $500 above my actual expected income. But I've been keeping running totals for ten months, now, and the aggregate expenses in most categories are pretty close to, or under, both the proposed budget and my income. The actual average expense has been $343 over my income, most of which has been the recent extra health expense, which I took out of emergency savings. Once that expense stops, the expenses should be about $150 per month less than my income, and that extra money will go into retirement savings.

The budget is based on take home pay only, and includes only expenses over which I have control. Health insurance ($406) and withholding taxes ($324) are taken out of my paycheck before I get it, and are determined by my contract, so I don't include them. I have a home office and business expenses that are not reimbursed, and I pay estimated taxes on the income from the outside gigs. For the past four months I've had health expenses that were not covered by my insurance, but that should stop in January.

Here are the basic categories. I usually don't make a comment if I was at or below the budget; if I was above for some reason, I try to tell you why.

EXPECTED TAKE HOME PAY: $3900

MONTHLY GUARANTEED EXPENSES:
  • communication (aol, cellphone, land line, DSL) 135.
  • Con Ed 93.
  • debt relief 1000. (apartment renovation expenses on credit cards, on schedule to pay off by 01/01/10)
  • prescription copays 160.
  • co-op maintenance 511.
  • metrocard 76.
  • mortgage 850.
  • savings (emergency & retirement) 100.
Total Guaranteed Expenses $2925

OTHER MONTHLY EXPENSES:
  • charity 10. (over budget this year for a one time special donation)
  • clothing 100. (over this year, as many old business clothes had to be replaced, should be okay in 2008)
  • dry cleaner 15.
  • entertaining & gifts, business 25. (over this year, but I already bought 2008 biz gifts, so next year should be very low)
  • entertaining & gifts, personal 50.
  • groceries & basic supplies 225.
  • grooming 100.
  • health care (not inc. drugs & insurance) 250. (this has gone $500 over budget each of the past four months, but that should stop soon)
  • home decor & repair, housecleaning service 75.
  • materials/print/supplies, business 50.
  • materials/print/supplies, personal 15. (over budget this Fall; I bought books when I was stuck at home, needing entertainment)
  • memberships, pers. 15.
  • office supplies, postage, copying 40.
  • restaurant 100.
  • research & tickets for biz 10.
  • travel (aside from metrocard) 125
  • once a year expenses 245. (made up of estimated taxes, recital expenses, vacation, education, tax prep, union fees)
  • miscellaneous, business 15.
  • miscellaneous, personal 15
Total Other Monthly Expenses $1480

Total Projected Expenses $4405
Actual Expenses Average $4,243.75

It seems pretty clear that certain budget items are particularly affected by living in New York City. I don't need a gym, because I walk about ten miles a week, and climb stairs constantly. I don't need a car -- like many native New Yorkers, I've never even been behind the wheel of one. My public transportation costs, i.e., Metrocard and train tickets, use a very small portion of my income. I bought an apartment in a formerly scary Manhattan neighborhood just about a month before gentrification hit full speed, so I only spend $1454 on mortgage, maintenance, and utilities combined, which is very low by middle class New York standards (what is "middle class", anyway?), and I'm not sure that could be much reduced elsewhere. Aside from occasional taxis, restaurants, and books, I don't have much "latte factor".

I really think that if you can manage to find affordable housing, New York is one of the best places, financially, for a person without much money, and no children, to live. As far as culture is concerned, it's probably the most interesting city on the face of the planet, and a lot of the best stuff is free or cheap. I'm sure I couldn't be a full-time musician anywhere else, and for that reason I've never considered leaving New York. Besides, I come from a New York City family, and have lived here most of my life, and wouldn't want to move, because this is my home town, and I'm a total snob about it. All in all, while I don't feel like I have an extra dollar, I don't think I would manage better anywhere else. The real solution to my financial problems, I think, is to make more money!

I'm working on it.
Thanks for giving us this detailed look at your finances, SandyVoice! I think SandyVoice's life illustrates what many people in NYC go through-- it's really tough to make enough money to make ends meet, but it would be even tougher to have your chosen career in any other city. I also noticed that her monthly health insurance cost is quite high-- another tough issue for many people who may work at a number of part-time or freelance jobs to maintain a career in music or theater or art, as opposed to the kind of full-time corporate job that tends to have better benefits. SV's story also shows that it really is important to know how much you spend when you're on a tight budget, and that however much you struggle with cutting expenses, sometimes you might need to look at making more money! (See Rules #10 and #13.) Best of luck and thanks for your story and regular comments, SandyVoice!

Other posts in this series:

New York Stories #1: Bronx Chica
New York Stories #2: Orange
New York Stories #3: Bama Babe
New York Stories #4: K
New York Stories #5: Frugal Female

Wednesday, January 02, 2008

New York Stories #5: Frugal Female

Here we are again with a New York story, submitted by an anonymous reader, who I've chosen to call Frugal Female:

I am a single, 28-year-old woman who has a BA in American History from an Ivy League college.

I had over $10,000 in savings when I graduated college in 2002, mostly because I took off a semester in the middle to work, and my parents covered food, housing, and tuition while I was in school. (In college, I paid for books, clothing, travel, eating out, movies, etc.) However, I had six months of unemployment, punctuated by stints with several temp agencies and some freelancing, and that, combined with my move to Manhattan in 2003, basically wiped out my savings. I think I had $1000 or $2000 left when I moved to NYC, and my parents had to pay for the movers. I had about $13K in federal college loans, but my parents sold their house in 2002 for reasons unrelated to me, and then paid off my college loans. I moved into a $1100/month apartment in Manhattan with three roommates in 2003, and I think I made $35K that first year, in the non-profit world. I was able to afford food, transportation, and clothing that year, but my parents had to help me with dental and medical bills (no dental insurance, adequate medical insurance) and had to pay for any trips I took home or to visit my grandparents in California.

From 2003-2007, over which time my salary increased from $35K to $48K, I managed to keep my rent at about $1100/month, plus utilities, in doorman buildings in Manhattan, in "converted" apartments--first a two -bedroom converted to a four-bedroom, and later a two-bedroom converted to a three-bedroom. Utilities weren't bad, though, split either three or four ways. My parents bought a new computer for me when my 6-year-old laptop died in 2005, but I was able to pay my own medical and dental bills (totaling $1500--after insurance--in 2006), except for therapy, which I still cannot afford and for which my parents generously pay. (It costs about $4/year even with insurance coverage. I go to an MSW, not a PhD, which is cheaper, and she charges me at the bottom of her sliding scale.) I was not able to save a lot of my increased salary, but I was able to be less dependent on my parents, which was important to me. I have been able to afford things like better work clothes, gym membership, new prescription glasses, charitable donations, and taking guys out on dates, which I couldn't afford at all in 2003 or 2004. I took one nice vacation to Brazil, in 2005, which cost me only about $1500, because I got a free flight and stayed with some distant relatives part of the time. I took one graduate school class in library science, but wasn't sure it was the right path for me, and couldn't fathom how I could ever afford to live in NYC while in graduate school. From 2003-2007, I only managed to save a net of about $5000, plus about $6000 in a 403b through work (partly my own contributions, partly matching funds, at two different non-profit jobs). My friends who live in Washington DC, Boston, and other cities have been able to save a lot more than I, and some of them have bought condos.

This past August, I moved to a new apartment, in a cheaper neighborhood in Manhattan, where I pay $600/month to share a converted one bedroom in a non-doorman building. Since August, with the $500/month I have been saving in rent, I managed to pay myself back for the move (movers and realtors' fees added up to more than $2500--this was the first move that I was able to pay for entirely on my own!) and to finally open a Roth IRA, which has been on my to do list since 2003. I put $1000 in, and I'm hoping to put another $1000 in before April 15.

I would not have been able to afford to live in Manhattan without my parents' help, especially their generous offer to pay off my college loans and their paying for my therapy. On my part, I try to live somewhat frugally. It helps that I am something of a homebody and that I keep kosher, which means that I eat out a lot less than other people do. Good kosher restaurants are very expensive, and bad ones aren't that tasty. I don't like to cook, but I also don't like to spend too much on take-out, so I end up eating a lot of yogurt, sandwiches, veggie burgers, and boxed soups. I like tofu and vegetables a whole lot, and don't eat much meat. I definitely waste too much money on junk food, which leads to the additional problem of my weight fluctuating, which means that I've worn clothing in three different sizes since 2003. I splurge on books and music, mostly, plus at-most-weekly lattes from Starbucks. I never see any shows, which makes me sad, but they're just too expensive. I take full advantage of free summer performances in Central Park, and sometimes see dance performances at Julliard. I take public transportation almost everywhere (including the airport), and only take cabs in extenuating circumstances. I gave up my gym membership because I wasn't using it, and now I'm trying to get enough exercise by walking as much as I can. Last year, when I did this, I managed to walk 2-3 miles/day five or six days a week just by living in Manhattan!

I am a little bit afraid of money and of looking too closely at my finances, since they seem so precarious. I do my own taxes without any special computer program, including itemizing medical and charitable deductions, so I'm not a total neophyte, but I only budget in that I don't spend more in a month than I know I will make in the month--I've never had even a penny of credit card debt to my name. Whenever I have a few extra hundred dollars in my checking account, I move it right into savings (online, interest-paying) and try to forget that it exists. I do sometimes use that money to pay for unusual expenses like travel/vacations, dental fillings and teeth cleanings, and to save for things like a digital camera (don't have one yet) and a new computer (2005 laptop broke in September). That's the only way I have $6000 in savings now. I know that it's not a lot, but it's more than I had in 2003 after six months of unemployment! It's not nearly enough to count as a "rainy day" fund, or to last very long if I should lose my job.

I am planning on continuing to save as much money as I can, both through a Roth IRA and my savings account (plus automatic bi-monthly contributions of $50 to my 403(b), which I don't think about at all) through June 2008, and then probably go off somewhere for a year to find myself. I am applying for a fellowship now that will enable me to do that. If I don't get the fellowship, I will still probably quit my job, since I am quite burned out. I know it's not so responsible, but I need to figure out something that I can do with my life that will earn me a salary over $50K/year, and I can't figure that out while working these administrative jobs that bore me to tears. I might freelance a little bit, and/or take graduate school classes. I might leave New York. I really don't know. I sort of thought that I would be in a different place in my life than I am right now. I wish I was less dependent on my parents. They don't have a lot of money, and I sometimes worry about them jeopardizing their own retirement by helping me out with $1000 here and a $1000 there. They assure me that it's okay, but my sister, who is 30, never takes any money from them and is still paying off educational loans from her BA and MA. She also lives in a cheaper city, where her rent hasn't ever been above $800/month.

So, yeah. New York City is hard. I don't anticipate staying here for the long run at all. Maybe the difficulty of living here is worth it if you get to take full advantage of what the city has to offer. I don't know. I do love the public transportation, Fairway, and the free arts programs in the summer.